Imagine the narcissist is a house on fire. You would not walk inside to reason with the flames. You would hose it down from a distance.
[Gaslighting] ----> erodes your sense of reality. [Projection] ----> transfers their flaws onto you. [Triangulation] --> creates insecurity through third parties. Gaslighting Imagine the narcissist is a house on fire
What is your to this person? (Partner, parent, boss, friend?) What is the main behavior that drains you? Is going completely no-contact an option for you? [Gaslighting] ----> erodes your sense of reality
Most advice tells you to "go no contact" or "grey rock" (acting boring). But you can't grey rock your boss, your mother-in-law, or your co-parent. For unavoidable relationships, you need a surgical approach. Gaslighting What is your to this person
If you must interact with a narcissist—such as a co-worker or an ex-partner with whom you share custody—become as uninteresting as a grey rock. Offer short, factual, and completely unemotional responses. Narcissists feed on your emotional reactions (both positive and negative). Denying them that fuel makes them lose interest in targeting you. Abandon the Need for Closure
Stop asking, "Do they love themselves?" Ask, "Do they need me to constantly confirm their existence?"